Porch of Misty

“Our biggest problem is not someone else, sister. It is ourselves.”

It has been one year and two months I am living in a work environment. People out of there often saying that working environment will be more in challenges compare to the formerly place we used to lived and learned.

I found it true.

When you are not a student anymore, you are expected for not doing anything with mistake. You should be able to handle your tasks perfectly. The presentation of tolerance will become smaller in a working environment.

You may assuming what will you face if you do mistake in your job. You might have imagined how much pressure will you get if you keep doing mistakes.

Advice

Gus Romzi Ahmad once said to me an important thing. It was Thursday - mid of Ramadhan 1438 H, we had an interview by phone. When I asked him what do he wanna say to every youth might hear him, he answered:

As we are youth, try to do many things, gain experiences, and do mistakes. People were not born perfect. Experiencing fault and mistakes is a must for human being. Which is why, spend your mistakes and failures when you are young, so that you will not experience the same thing after you are totally grown as men.

How wise his advice is. I just realized it now. The chance of being youth is really a gold. The idea of doing mistakes is brilliant. Because when a person is afraid to make mistakes, he won’t be brave to take any action considering to the consequence he may have.

This advice is related to a saying – Al Insanu mahallul khoto’ wan nisyan, that human is a place of mistakes and forgetfulness.

What if we do mistakes again and again?

We know, everytime we did mistake, we will feel bad. The feeling of incapability, the feeling of become useless, and tendency to blame our selves will haunt us. At the time, we might also haunted by guilty since we have made people in our circle dissapointed.

But who won’t make mistake? Who will always feel good in his life long? Who will guarantee that he or she able to keep everyone’s belief and heart everytime?

I think no one will.

Forgive Yourself, Give a chance to Love

So, it is okay if by chance you did a mistake.  Thought it as a fault. Instead of keep accusing yourself for doing mistake, it is better to think a way to repair the situation. If by chance out of your control you made someone dissapointed, try to find a solution instead of let yourself down and taking a distance with that very person.

let gone be by gone. We need to keep waling forward. We need to continoue life and write in a new blank page in each following day.

Pulling yourself from the circle and running from the problem is not a good solution. Human are blessed with heart, they are – we are – forgiveful. There is no relation couldn’t be repaired after its broke. There is no stop if we wish to keep step forward.

Love yourself. Indeed. Take a deep breath and rest if you tired enough. Gain your energy and then walk again. We are blessed and loved. As long as we are done with ourselves, insyaallah we will able to see everything from a positive side and take a learn from journey we have.

Bismillah, Bi-idznillah.